“SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS”
by
Dina Gachman
Grief & Bereavement / Love & Loss / Parenting & Relationships
Publisher: Union Square & Co.
Page Count: 240 pages
Publication Date: April 11, 2023
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A heartfelt exploration about what it means to process grief, by a bestselling author and journalist whose experience with two devastating losses inspired her to bring comfort and understanding to others.
Since losing her mother to cancer in 2018 and her sister to alcoholism less than three years later, author and journalist Dina Gachman has dedicated herself to understanding what it means to grieve, healing after loss, and the ways we stay connected to those we miss. Through a mix of personal storytelling, reporting, and insight from experts and even moments of humor, Gachman gives readers a fresh take on grief and bereavement—whether the loss is a family member, beloved pet, or a romantic relationship. No one wants to join the grief club, since membership comes with zero perks, but So Sorry for Your Loss will make that initiation just a little less painful.
In the spirit of Elizabeth Kubler Ross books like On Grief and Grieving, or C.S. Lewis’s A Grief Observed, So Sorry for Your Loss is the perfect gift for someone who is grieving. With her blend of personal experiences, expert advice, and just a little bit of humor, Gachman has provided a compassionate and compelling resource for anyone looking for grief books.
PRAISE FOR SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS:
Gachman perceptively puts words to the uncomfortable realities of loss…and deconstructs its social myths, helping readers feel less alone. Those facing loss will find solace here.” —Publishers Weekly
“So Sorry for Your Loss is a monument to the work of remembering and a testament to the immutable love of family and the grief that forever changes us.” —Lauren Hough, New York Times bestselling author of Leaving Isn’t the Hardest Thing
“So Sorry for Your Loss is a meditation on loss that reminds us how to go on living.” —Deirdre Fagan, author of Find a Place for Me and The Grief Eaters
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“How do we manage anything
other than grief
when we are in the depths of it?”
HALL WAYS AUDIO BOOK / PRINT COMBO REVIEW: When So Sorry for Your
Loss: How I Learned to Live with Grief, and Other Grave Concerns popped up
on my radar, I knew I had to read it given what’s happened in my own life in
the past month, the past year, and even thirteen years ago: loss of a dear
friend, loss of my daddy, loss of my sweet momma. But one of the great ironies
of my bookish world is that I don’t really get to read very much. Fortunately
for me, this book is available on audio, which I promptly purchased the day it
published. And then for a couple of days, I was afraid to listen because the
author, Dina Gachman, narrates the book. HOW?!
If you read the book
description, you know what prompted her to write her book. Good Lord, I
thought. How in the world will she get through this narration without crumbling
and wrecking both of us? The good news is she doesn’t crumble; she delivers
her story evenly and professionally, which is an amazing feat of narration for
which I am so grateful. She kept it together, which made it easier for me to
keep it together, even though she’s sharing experiences when she most definitely
lost it. I can relate.
Gachman’s story is so
relatable -- I wish it weren’t -- but I found myself nonstop nodding my head in
agreement as she shared her perspectives, revelations, and experiences. Sure,
my throat tightened, and my eyes started to sting more than a few times, but I
also found myself laughing with her words because she’s right that sometimes
that’s all you can do when your momma tells you she’ll haunt you if you don’t
bury her with her wig on. (But SERIOUSLY.)
“Sometimes you just want
them back,
whether they are no longer suffering or not.”
Throughout the book, Gachman
switches from telling her personal stories to sharing facts and statistics and even
self-diagnosis. This format helps a lot for readers who are feeling the gut-punch
from the truth of her words. (Readers like me.) It helps when she frames or
reframes emotions and emotional responses with the net result being a feeling
of comfort, belonging, and sometimes even righteous indignation (Yeah, Dad
lived into his 89th year, a long life. But that does NOT make me
feel better that he’s gone. It’s no less painful because he was old.)
I needed this book right
now, and I needed it in audiobook so I could experience it RIGHT NOW. But, it’s
a book you need to read with your eyes, too, or you miss out on some exceptional
parts. There are Suggested Resources and Notes sections that provide explanations and
links for more information. In print, the book includes a lovely, evocative photo
of the deceased's family taking a walk together. And the audiobook references it, but it doesn’t
give you the “Recipes That Temporarily Annihilate Feelings of Grief” section. Required
reading, in my opinion, because it allows you to leave the book with a little
more laughter and some great food ideas because as Gachman says, “Do not bring
depressing foods like Melba toast, steamed broccoli, or blanched green beans
with zero seasoning. Grief requires butter, salt, flavor, and a whole lot of
love.”
I wrote down a page full of
quotes that resonated with me, and I will certainly revisit them and their source, So Sorry for Your Loss, hearing Gachman’s voice as I re-read
passages. Highly recommended.
Dina Gachman is a Pulitzer Center Grantee and a frequent contributor to the New York Times, Vox, Texas Monthly, and more. She’s a New York Times bestselling ghostwriter and the author of Brokenomics: 50 Ways to Live the Dream on a Dime. She lives near Austin, Texas, with her husband and son. Photo credit Jessica Comiskey.
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So Sorry for Your Loss
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